"DON'T YOU THINK SHE'S A LITTLE BIT YOUNG?"
Stephanie Sinclair travelled around rural Afghanistan photographing child brides in 2003. She returned with a series of moving, upsetting portraits of terrified adolescents born into a world of misogynistic duties and suicidal despair.
The question above is one Sinclair asked of a man who had just won someone's daughter in a bet. He replied: "Well, we have a saying out here that if she doesn't fall down when you hit her with your cap, she's old enough to marry."
Take a moment to listen to Sinclair narrate the images in this slideshow from The Economist:


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the skew of culture and ignorance that is masked as religion
August 20, 2009 - 00:33 — Visitor (not verified)these people are so cut off from reality. all they know is what they have heard from what other ignorant and uneducated people(whom they believe are leaders) tell them. they are illiterate and do not know the difference between the laws of the Quran and the laws of power hungry men. the things they have done to these men and women is so wrong. they not only give men the ability to do as they please, but they give them a green light by saying that it's god's law they are upholding. what nonsense. the women must stand up for themselves even if it's dangerous. they are already in a horrible cycle, don't keep repeating it. yes, it may be hard to do. but is it worth the pain of life in a prison with no physical bars, or freedom through truth and strength in what is truly right?
Off the high horses
August 20, 2009 - 04:31 — Tina (not verified)This happens everywhere in human society and was common in the past also in Europe. What about the Mormon child brides in Utah? Or the many child abuse cases throughout Western society. Pedophilia and abuse of women are a shared human taste. As usual finger pointing and moral indignation serve the purpose of elevating our society by contrast to these bestial aliens and obscuring the obvious. If these girls had economic power, they wouldn't be given away like chattel. What about some global economic equity beginning with ending agricultural subsidies, trade tariffs and paying fair prices for the goods we purchase?
Some of the opinions here
August 20, 2009 - 08:56 — Visitor (not verified)Some of the opinions here have valid points. This has occurred in the majority of human societies and still occurs in the West. The difference between the West and this culture is the attempt and success of some at showing the moral depravity of such a practice. It is now widely frowned upon in our society but this does not seem to be the case in a lot of societies such as the example. I do not believe the finger pointing is an attempt to elevate ourselves but rather a natural (though not good) human response to expressing disappointment or disgust. And furthermore, I do not believe that the economical suggestions made here would create or even significantly encourage a change in morals. Though I hate to admit it, I do not see a better option then the ugly head of capitalism and I do not feel that the reoccurring lack of morals is a result of capitalism.
Child Brides Fight Back
August 20, 2009 - 10:24 — Mark (not verified)I understand the need to be respectful of and sensitive to cultural mores, but this custom grievously harms young children, and it must be stopped. Fortunately, some young girls are taking a courageous stand against this that is as inspiring as anything I've ever read in a civil rights struggle:
http://www.findingdulcinea.com/news/international/2009/june/Child-Brides...
i understand what you mean,
August 20, 2009 - 12:32 — emily (not verified)i understand what you mean, but dont you think the rest of the world are those cut off from reality? these people are thrown into it with no choice. theyre the ones experiencing the harshness of reality first-hand... id say western culture is most often the sheltered.
I think that in a FAR GONE
August 20, 2009 - 15:46 — Visitor (not verified)I think that in a FAR GONE age this was acceptable because it was necessary for propagation and working of farmland or raising animals. So there had to be many hands and to get those hands you needed women of childbearing age to bear as many children as possible. Even after birth some of these babies did not survive and so there had to be many births to get a good enough number to prosper.
But in modern times what is the need besides the needs of men?
It is wrong based on current needs to even try to justify this.
Ignorance is bliss
August 21, 2009 - 05:01 — Visitor (not verified)And this lot are the most blissful ignoramuses in the world.
They are 400 years behind the rest of humanity so let us just leave them there.
I'm in 'the rest of the
August 21, 2009 - 15:00 — Visitor (not verified)I'm in 'the rest of the world' right now, and I think as was mentioned early- we in the West are sheltered. Beyond all belief. The idea of living 'in a modern world' in itself is a farce. Even in the locations where they have SOME technologies that are available to us now, people are not educated enough to utilize them fully, and live in cultures that pre-date industrialization almost unchanged. And just because some guy out in the desert has a cell phone doesn't make him modern...
I don't think that marrying young girls off is right, and I've seen some of the horrible things done to them here. I just wanted some people back home to realize, none of these things are found in small backward pockets of the globe- they are all across the world and our culture of marrying at 30, having one kid and retiring at 60 are the real cultural anomalies.
No, you are mistaken...
August 21, 2009 - 18:49 — Visitor (not verified)No, you are mistaken... raping of young girls and women was never necessary. Females as property was never necessary. Forcing females to reproduce against their will or better judgment was never necessary. That is a myth that men have told us about historical cultures. It is only the existential fear and powerlessness that men feel that drives these myths and misunderstandings of biological sex and evolution. Read some S. J. Gould to start.
Reality
August 22, 2009 - 10:48 — Visitor (not verified)Cut off from reality? My reality and your reality is not the same. Reality, my friend, is self constructed.
This is sickening, the men
August 22, 2009 - 11:14 — Visitor (not verified)This is sickening, the men are disgusting. There is no other way to describe them I don't care how isolated they are or how normal it seems to them, they just want sex with young girls and their ridiculous society sanctions it.
Hell no! - to those who say
August 23, 2009 - 11:09 — Visitor (not verified)Hell no! - to those who say we should accept this because it's their culture: If we 'must' accept child brides then we should also accept the 'cultural practice' of female genital mutilation ...
down with barbarism
A well done piece
August 24, 2009 - 10:14 — danielle (not verified)Though these images are painful, this is a well done, insightful piece. Thank you for bringing attention to this issue.
I would be interested in a follow-up piece focusing on efforts to support these girls and women, and what strategies might be best for helping them.
boohoo bleeding hearts, it
August 25, 2009 - 18:51 — Visitor (not verified)boohoo bleeding hearts, it worked like this for most societies for the last 12 000 years or more, get over it, all the women were fed and clothed and not starving like people in africa, so take your western bullshit values and shove them. no wonder everyone hates the west you think you know how everyone else should live, keep your noses out of what other people do or dont complain when they get cut off. i cant wait until the whole world goes to hell and all societies are forced to go back to living this way, we will see where all you cry babies end up in the world when you arent protected by armies and have to fend for yourselves. you wouldnt last a day.
"you think you know how
August 26, 2009 - 07:43 — Visitor (not verified)"you think you know how everyone else should live"
no, this makes sense. the only people who should be told how to live are those ungrateful 15 year old girls who try to visit their moms. i see what youre trying to say even if logic defies you.
Idiot. Well we know he's not
August 26, 2009 - 17:09 — Visitor (not verified)Idiot. Well we know he's not married.
Excellent work Stephanie Sinclair
August 26, 2009 - 18:09 — Mr. Internetter (not verified)Allow me to digress from this particular story to comment on the commenters first. I am from the "West" I enjoy my air-conditioned home while living la vida latte. Call me ignorant if you must, though I would call your knowledge of 'Western Philosophy' moot at at best. I do not know (or want to know) how everyone should live.
To the commentor, "boohoo bleading hearts"; you have a twistedly misguided sense of reality and seem fundamentally uneducated. Are you under the impression that the whole world "going to hell" is like a big (RESET) button that returns a societal progrssion back to a cro-magnun type state? Did you even think before you wrote?
I have no sensativity for this culture, the women should have symetric authority, and the men need to learn how to shave, that Pashtun look is soo 1700s! And talking about gay? the Ayatollah(s) are more flaming than a burning afghan flag in the center of the Castro district.
Do these woman beating pedophiles actually think that h??r?yah awaits them at the end of their pathetic execuses for a life? (@Flipping The Bird)
Well hacka lacka hadith yourselves right in the butt.
High emotions hamper reason
August 27, 2009 - 11:16 — Davy (not verified)Those of you who are outraged, I join you, as I believe everyone here commenting does.
But once we accept that we are outraged, we can put our emotional state aside for a moment for a better examination of the facts and begin to understand that there are other, more important considerations than the "us good, them bad" perspective—if our interest is, as it ought to be, the dismantling of complex and pervasive cultural systems on the grounds that they are abuses of human rights.
Empty moral indignation does nothing to help sexually abused children all over the world (and the facts, if you examine them, show that this is a global problem, not a Muslim or Afghan one).
The journalist's own, informed opinion, is that women are responsible as well as men—and that the problem is their lack of education. Do not presume to know better than someone who has been there and met these people.
I'm glad this was printed!
August 27, 2009 - 13:22 — Muha-Abeed (not verified)It's nice to see they know their place.
Personally i think that it
August 30, 2009 - 08:22 — Irin Spencer (not verified)Personally i think that it seems so strange and abnormal only for us, i mean europeans. We are brought up in another society that has completely different rules. This child doesn't realize that she is too young.She lives the same life as everybody around live. For us her way of life is shocking, we feel great pity for her. But don't you think that our way of lif? seems strange and abnormal for her?
I'm all for protecting ones
August 31, 2009 - 20:33 — Johnny Dam (not verified)I'm all for protecting ones culture but eventually you have to stop throwing virgins into the volcano.
Two cents: I don't think
September 6, 2009 - 10:43 — Visitor (not verified)Two cents:
I don't think anyone here is idiotic enough to condemn an entire culture because one part of it is absolutely sickening. And I don't think anyone here is making comparisons between "Western" culture as a whole and this one...because that would be impossible. There are certain aspects of every culture that NEED to be changed. No one is saying that the entire way of life must be erased, but that one part of it is so wrong that it must be separated from the whole and exterminated. And as far as finger pointing goes, I'm almost positive that the people who comment on this type of video have enough wherewithall to pay attention to and protest atrocities in Western policy/culture as well. I think, in this age, we can no longer ignore other cultures as a separate, self-contained system. And I don't think preventing teenage girls from lighting themselves on fire is somehow an reflection of Western ideals, any more than women being desperate enough to light themselves on fire is an exclusive Afghani issue. It just makes sense on an ethical, moral, political, economical, etc etc etc level to not have your country's young women making suicide attempts on a regular basis. When a functioning member of society commits suicide at a young age, the entire community is negatively impacted. Period.
and p.s. Irin Spencer: That
September 6, 2009 - 10:48 — Visitor (not verified)and p.s. Irin Spencer:
That smacks of the white man saying that education would be an unhealthy shock for slaves' constitutions. Just because they are accostomed to one way of life doesn't mean that they can't comprehend another, or evaluate the pros and cons of another, just as you and I are doing. Education aside, you have to give people a chance to think and choose for themselves.
Universal Human Values
September 23, 2009 - 19:34 — Visitor (not verified)Corrupt power brokers across the board -- from the government, military, religious leaders, Taliban -- have deliberately kept Afghanistan a medieval serfdom to serve power's needs. This beautiful country's beautiful girls, boys, women and men are collateral damage.
it is obviously the economic condition
October 8, 2009 - 12:20 — James Emery (not verified)it is obviously the desperate economic condition that is causing the supply and demand in the "Farmer's Daughters Market" Yes if the girl had money she would have said fuck you and left on an airplane fool. and if her father wasn't so broke he probably wouldn't have bet his daughter on a game of cards or dice or whatever. In the Monetary System (Capitalism, Socialism, Communism, Fascism, Monarchy, Oligarchy) We are all chiseling off of each other and you can't expect decency in that sort of thing. Say if you've got a doctor, he tells you, "oh we need to take that kidney out, that kidney's gotta come out," Now is you're kidney fucked up? or is you're doctor trying to pay off his yacht? Morality comes second in a monetary system that's all there is to it. the foremost priority of any modern established institution is the upholding of that institution by the ascertainment of continual PROFIT. you know why you're malibu breaks Down? it's because chevy wants u 2 buy another, newer one. one of the Brand new Cheaper for GM cars cuz it was produced in mexico. GM doesn't care about america, american people's outlook or the upholding of american Values they are more concerned with Profit. Exxon doesn't care about the oil stain in the ocean except for the fact that they lost out on some Profit in that mess. So don't talk about morality, decency or Ethics, For these concerns are entirely secondary, in our profit driven society. }}}!!if i were a rothschild i would build these people schools and hospitals and plumbing systems and what not!!{{{
Silly, Silly You!
October 16, 2009 - 01:01 — Visitor (not verified)What gives you the right to judge someone elses cultural morality based on the view of your own? That makes you ignorant.
It seems to me that it's a
November 18, 2009 - 17:15 — Denny (not verified)It seems to me that it's a bit ridiculous to compare Eastern traditions and european.It's a waste of time, because things that seem awful for us are normal for people from this part of the world.There are of course many questions to discuss.Violance takes place everywhere.
I thought you were talking
November 19, 2009 - 18:42 — Visitor (not verified)I thought you were talking about the tea-baggers for a second there. ;)
Child Brides
November 23, 2009 - 16:52 — Visitor (not verified)"What gives you the right to judge someone elses cultural morality based on the view of your own? That makes you ignorant."
Culture my ass!
Exactly
March 27, 2010 - 21:03 — Visitor (not verified)Exactly
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